Ask Better Questions!
Over the years, I have learned quite a few lessons. Some of those lessons were learned the hard way. Some lessons pertain to the clinic. Some about raising kids. Some about maintaining relationships. Some of the lessons that I have learned are applicable in every facet of my life. This week we are going to talk about one of those lessons that will remain with me forever.
One of the most important ways that we learn, and the one that I want to talk about today, is by asking questions. Carol and I took the girls up to Long Island to visit the family over the Holiday weekend. We had a wonderful weekend. The girls got to see their cousins, and we got to spend some time catching up with Carol's Mom and her siblings and our siblings-in-law while the kids played together.
On the long drive home, one of my girls was a little bored. She decided to start asking questions... and didn't seem to stop... The questions she was asking seemed completely random. They did not make sense. Looking in the rearview mirror, frustrated from the long drive, I asked her "Can you ask better questions?" Then I realized that this is one of those lessons that I have learned along the way.
When we ask higher-quality questions, we often get higher-quality answers.
As I pause now to reflect, I realize that maybe she hadn't learned that lesson yet, or maybe she was just trying to get under our skin. I am not sure which...
Back to asking better questions. If you are having a conversation with someone, regardless of the topic, listen attentively. Listen to understand, not simply to respond. One of the best ways that you can show someone that you have been paying attention is to ask a relevant question. Then listen to their response, and ask another question.
Asking questions opens the doors to learning from others. It allows us to learn from their experiences. From their perspective. From their life.
Remember that the better the question that you ask, the better the response you will get!
Movement is my medicine,