Would you rather..?Many of you already know how much I have valued reading James Clear's book Atomic Habits. After reading it on three seperate occasions, the simple takeaway message is to look for small, easy-to-accomplish, bite-sized tasks that you can build upon in order to reach your goals in life. There is a lot more to the book than that oversimplified statement, but it is a good starting point.
We love this book so much that this month, we are focusing on quotes from Atomic Habits for all of our social media messaging. The quotes have been selected to help you build momentum as we move into the last 1/3 of the year! If you have not read that book yet, I highly encourage you to do so.
Mr. Clear also sends out a very simple weekly newsletter, that I read every week. I would highly recommend reading these as well because they are filled with thought-provoking quotes and questions. As a matter of fact, I find that I often read them when they hit my inbox, and then will sit with them and re-read them over a cup of coffee a couple of days later. If you would like to see what one of his newsletters looks like, here is a LINK to the most recent one.
The gist of the newsletter is that it is always 3 ideas from him, 2 quotes from others, and 1 question to ponder. The most recent question to ponder was:
"Would you rather be right or be happy?"
That question really had me thinking. There are times that we make a conscious decision that being right is more important, and then there are other times when being happy is clearly more important. But why is one more important in one situation and the other more important under different circumstances? After significant thought, I realized that - It really depends on who you are talking with.
There are times when it is best to come to grips with the idea that trying to do all that you can to prove that you are right is only going to make life more difficult over time. For example, when disagreeing with a parent, sibling, spouse, or even your child, preserving the long-term relationship is likely what matters most. However, when having a conversation with someone that you will not see on a regular basis, or someone that you are not as concerned about what they think of you, you may think that being right is more important. As an example, any disagreement with anyone, about anything, on social media. Ironically, even when having those discussions with family members online, we tend to be less concerned with the long term relationship, and seem to focus on "winning" the argument. There is something very different about a conversation that happens using only text, as compared to a face-to-face discussion.
The question that you have to ask yourself is "How important is this person to me? How important is their opinion of me?"
The best advice I can share is "Before you get into a heated conversation with someone, whether in person or online, know whether it is more important that you be right or that you be happy." Then approach the discussion accordingly.
Movement is my medicine,