Have you ever read something and felt like you have been hit in the face a bucket of ice cold water? Earlier this week, it happened to me. Many of you know that I am part of a men's "book club," probably because I love to talk about it! I guess it is the direct opposite of Fight Club where the first rule was "Don't talk about Fight Club." (If you haven't seen the movie, just ignore that whole statement.)

The book we were reading for this most recent meeting was called Radical Candor by Kim Scott. It is a very good book about how we communicate with one another. Now, I admit that I hadn't finished reading the book before our meeting (shame on me...) but I wanted to make sure that I did in fact finish the book, so that I didn't miss anything. I AM REALLY GLAD THAT I FINISHED IT because I came across the gem in the picture above.


Let that sink in for a moment. That statement hit me like the bucket of ice water... It is something that I am very aware of, but the reminder was necessary.

My challenge to you is this - This weekend when in conversation, whether it is your spouse or child or a friend FOCUS on what they are saying and listen to them, without thinking about what you want to say next. Wait until they finish before you think about what you are going to say.

PAY ATTENTION to them, instead of thinking about what you have to say.


Movement is my medicine,

Dr. William "Chip" Bleam

Dr. William "Chip" Bleam


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